While I’m getting back in the swing of things with the start of school, I have some special treats for you to keep you having fun and thinking. For starters, I’ve been crazy pinning on Pinterest all kinds of fun things, from lunch ideas to birthday party favors, so go now and check out those pins. AND, we are lucky enough to have a guest post from one of my favorite bloggers today. She’s the wonderful Jillian of A Mom With A Lesson Plan and she’s here today to give us a quick lesson on getting rid of the all too common word “no.”
A friend of mine confessed a toddler issue frustrating her family. “We are always saying (and hearing) NO!” Toddlers are known for their overuse of the word “no.” Not too surprising since “no” is the word they hear most often.
Since a toddler’s main objective is to explore and examine, they are usually into (or on) things they shouldn’t be. Until they begin to understand the world a little better it is your job to keep them safe. Sometimes the first thing that comes to mind is a “NO!”
“No! Don’t climb up there.”
“No! Don’t touch that.”
“No! Don’t run in here.”
There are two problems with using “NO” in every situation. First, it loses its power. Kids need to hear the word “NO” and freeze. A good loud “NO” should stop a little one from running into the street or from touching a hot stove. If it’s the last “NO” following twenty others, how strong does it sound?
Second, the words “NO” and “DON’T” bring up the action you are trying to prevent. What happens to you when I say “NO! Don’t think about ice cream!” Did you think about ice cream? Probably so. The same is true for kids.
Easy Ways to Get Rid of the “NO!”
1. Eliminate the need for “NO” wherever you can. Of course I understand this is much easier said than done, but cutting down on the reasons to say no will make a big difference. If there are breakable or unsafe items in your home, put them out of reach until your toddler is a little older. Try to block off areas that have more risk than toddler friendly spaces.
2. Find the positive. For every negative, there is a positive.
“Don’t climb on that” could be changed to “Keep your feet on the floor.”
“No hitting” easily becomes “Hands are for clapping, hands are for hugging.”
When they are older, and have stronger verbal skills, “No hitting,” can be replaced with, “You look angry. Let me help you use your words.”
“No running” can be replaced with “Walking feet.”
Can you hear how different each suggestion sounds? With positive comments you are guiding kids to do what you want them to do.
What tricks do you have for keeping the “NO”s to a minimum?
Besides a love for her kids (and well just kids in general) Jillian has a degree in Early Childhood Education and 10 years experience as a preschool teacher. Right now her “students” call her mom. Jillian believes that life offers an abundance of learning opportunities. She loves figuring out what they are and how they can be expanded on. Join the journey at amomwithalessonplan.com.Email this article »